The comfort of BSB

[NGCKLS]

Although I should not be surprised anymore, I am still amazed at the power BSB has over me. Even on my darkest days, hearing a BSB song on the radio immediately lifts my spirits and I can't help but smile. I've been traveling a lot for business lately; driving to new places and meeting new people. I've gotten lost more times than I can count, but somehow listening to my BSB cds while driving keeps me calm. There's something very comforting about hearing their music. This is so silly I know, but I feel like I'm in the company of old friends and I feel safe and secure. Am I totally crazy here?

[BSBGeezerFan]

Nope. You know as much as we have chewed over this secret of their appeal thing, there is still something about it that is elusive--that just won't transform itself into words. Part of that is that soothing, if not healing quality. I've read stories of their music pulling fans back from the brink of suicide, comforting them through the loss of loved ones and physical illness (AJ and If You Knew What I Knew pulled me through post op once, myself), making a day from hades into an island of peace, I don't know how to explain how it is that just 5 guys singing can do that (well, I do, but not everybody buys that about The Emotari). It has to do with that thing about the whole being more (WAY MORE) than the sum of its parts. Just them being who they are draws and compels your love, loyalty, passion and yes, dare I say it, multiple album purchases. Only other Backstreeters appear to understand this or each other.
So it depends on how you define crazy. Like I've said before if the nut truck for Happy Valley continues to pass by your front door and not stop, you're good to go and your answer is "No" (for today anyway, lol).

[maturebsbfan]

You're not crazy K - let's get that straight first :)!!

For me, their music can turn a grumpy, beotchy, in-your-face mood into a mellow, life is good mood in an instant.

What's even more interesting is the fact that I never tire of hearing their music. And I mean NEVER! I could listen to Millenium 24/7 and turn around and do it all over again. That's never happened before - I've always switched from this artist to that because I can only listen to them for so long.

I'll be the only one working in my office the day after Thanksgiving and I am so looking forward to listening to Black and Blue ALL DAY!!!

[daydreambeliever]

NGCKLS, if you're totally crazy, then i'm right there with you! Whether it's hearing the guys on the radio in my car or seeing them on tv or in a magazine i get this happy, stupid grin on my face and feel like all is going to be fine with the world...i'll never quite understand it and i really don't think i want to! :)

[BSBGeezerFan]

mature, whoop, there it is! You can listen to their stuff 24-7 and it's like hearing it the first time. That part is what really makes The Hater reach for the phone. I must have played The Call a bazillion times by now and fall more in love with it EVERY time and he cannot understand that. We won't even talk about All I Have To Give. I must have 5 separate versions.
K, you're not crazy unelss I am too. Now THAT should worry you.

[NGCKLS]

Thanks, Geeze, Gail and DDB - I guess I just need to stop trying to analyze all this and go with flow. As Geeze says, when it comes to BSB there are no explanations; it just is. And, you are right, that BSB fans understand it and accept it (although we are constantly asking the whys), while outsiders just shake their heads in bewilderment. What I find now is that BSB has become a part of me; they are part of who I am (and that scares me sometimes). It's hard to define me without mentioning BSB. And, Gail, I too was someone who would play an album for a couple of months then tire of it. I have hundreds of cds now that sit in the rack because I always want to listen to BSB. I force myself to play something different once and awhile just because I feel I should. I do love other music, but find it hard to break away from BSB.

[NickCfan4life]

hey girl if you are crazy then i am born Madonna.. i know how you feel. i can´t stop listening to their music. i always listen to their cds in my car when i go to school and that´s always calms me before i study.
to tell you truth they have completely saved my life. before i met their music (before 1995). i had a rough life. at school and outside. because i am deaf and hard to communicate people. ok people where i live did bullied me from one day to another. and i had to accept to live with that since i was 6 years old. people talk behind my back and made stories and everything and they didn´t even know me personally, that did break my heart bit by bit until the year 1995 when i was really down and felt so melancholy and it was hard to break out of this. with no real friends around didn´t kept me up. i had my mom beside me that tried to work everything out to make my life as easier it could be but wasn´t easy! then i met their music 1995 the song we´ve got it going on but i didn´t hooked up with that song. but i liked it. but the end of the year 1995 i heard the song I´ll never break your heart. to tell you the truth when i heard it for the first time, i broke down and cried and cried, to light up my heart to let me feel better emontionally because i had builded so much inside. then I´ll never break your heart became my song before the song Quit playing games with my heart came out. when i heard the song Quit playing games it became my fave song and still is.. i can still listen to this song without getting bored of it. and my mom don´t get me. but that song has a meaning in my heart. when i had my "first" boyfriend" when that song was popular. he treated me badly and i found out that he was cheating me with my ex best friend. i felt so horrible and dirty somehow and didn´t wanted to live anymore. i tried to cut my wraist but somehow i couldn´t, but something had to make me feel better then i heard Quit Playing games with my heart. to tell you they saved my complete life, because after that i have accepted the ways of life. and that song will always fill up my heart when i need some uplift and make me feel better. i still listen to it when i feel down.
when i bought the second album Backstreet Back i wasn´t really really huge fan like i am now but i became a fan after that. i couldn´t wait for the millennium. ok the big boom the millennium, all my complete life changed. i am happier and they make my alway feel better. you wanna know why? it´s the backstreet boys to thanx that i met you people early this year on LD and they also brought my first best friend.
like most of you i can´t get bored of Millennium. i kept on listening to it every single day when i went to school to make my day brighter and also i got better grades also all thanx to backstreet boys.
ok the song shape of my heart. makes me cry everytime i hear it. and also my mom loves it too. all i am now about i am alot happier with my life than i was fore 5 years ago. i am happy with those friends i have gained and now i feel i can talk alot now than i did before.
all i gotta say they make my days always brighter when i listen to them and i am reallly proud fan!! and somehow i thank them for my life. they have also helped me out on my difficult time. when i feel everything is impossible and i can´t do anything i just lock up the door. turn of the lights and light up the candles and play the backstreet boys..guess what they made my days!!
so you girl aren´t crazy..they have just this affect on people just different one that other groups.

i thought i just wanted to share this with you guys

luv always
Asta

[GodBlessBrian]

You're not crazy! I've gone through the same thing you've described... Physical illness and a life that was nice on the outside, but a tornado on the inside. Then it was May, 1999, and the rest is history.

I can't explain it either. I always coughed it up to something mystical, something above us. But I just think that certain things strike a chord in our hearts and our ears for that matter (i call them ear candy), and it's helped us in every aspect of our lives- happy and sad.

There's no question that it's weird/strange/crazy that I'm an older fan of a band whose following is usually little girls or teens. But there is ONE question: DO I CARE?

GBB <- - - skitching on the back of the nut truck with a Kentucky hat, worn backwards!

[LenaLovesSuede]

I think I've mentioned before that I started walking to lose weight and improve my health in July of 1999 and I walked EVERY day for a year and still do 5-6 days per week. For that whole year, I listened to BSB in my Sony and never got tired of it. In fact, that was part of making it bearable, knowing that I got to hear my Boys. Even though I was a huge Elvis fan (and still am) and a huge Beatles fan (and still am) and a huge fan of a group called Journey :D (and still am), none of them ever triggered the kind of devotion and emotion that the BSB do. Even though I have heard their music every day, when one of their songs comes on the radio, it just gives me such a feeling of happiness and pride that I can't even describe it, let alone explain it. Hey, if I'm crazy, I figure I'm in pretty good company, and I surely don't want any medication to bring me out of it!

[BSBGeezerFan]

Uh oh, here it comes. Spilling a gut for Backstreet. What is it about those guys?
NickC and GBB, I'm sooo glad the Boys served as an influence that made you want to live, try, do, be, strive, etc. They just seem to have that effect.
I'm not so different. Usually I'm engaged in a daily struggle with a monumental case of self-hatred. I mean, it's been here so long it's a part of who I am and how I live my life. People don't generally know that because, well, you know how I come across to those of you who know how I come across. Faith and duty to others have kept me on the planet, but it wasn't until BSB that I've WANTED to sing or to write or to contemplate my belly button with respect to BSB or to perv. It's like their existences and their music poses a life-affirming question that only we can answer. They're uplifting, what can I tell you? How can you possibly make someone understand exactly what they've done for you like that?

[BsbBroksGirl]

I feel the same way lol. Even when someone just mentions the bsb..im like where? :D LOL. But when I hear them on the radio I get so happy. Ahh.. what these boys do to me :(

[NickCfan4life]

yeah Geezer
we can´t explain to people how they effected our life. we can´t even explain the feeling we have that when they boys are on radio or Tv or for them that has seen theim live. that answers will never be answered that is something that we only knows ourselves
like what is it about the boys?? the truth i don´t know whathave facinated our hearts. and their lightened talents and voices from god. they are just like i call it a guardan angels!! they protects us from what we can do to ourselves, yeah geezer i know about the self-hatred thing..that is what i face with every day of my life. when i look into the mirrow i can´t say to myself. i love you and you are beautiful. but only thing i can say Backstreet boys keep the life in me. if there will be no bsb i don´t know where i will be. i have been facinated about other bands before like New Kids on the block but the truth no bands or singers have effected me like they do.
there is something in their voices and songs that only heals my soul and make me feel alot better
like when i have been asked for explanation why i like them so much and what is that about that have facinated my heart that much. like i said: the truth is i can´t tell you. you have to experience it yourself. we can´t explain this to nobody. i can´t explain it why they effected my soul and heart like this but i am glad i found other people like you on the boad that know exactly how it feels like and i am happy :D



[Edited by NickCfan4life on November 9th, 2000 at 08:16 AM]

[NGCKLS]

Okay, stop it guys. Your stories are bringing tears to my eyes, but what a wonderful testament to the Backstreet Boys. Like others, I too have suffered from low self-esteem and depression most of my life, although most of my friends and family weren't aware. I have to say that I am a much happier person in general since I discovered BSB. All the therapy and anti-depressants in world aren't as effective as a daily dose of Backstreet Boys. One friend told me after my first BSB concert last year that she had never seen me so happy. (That says it all.) And, a much younger co-worker said to me yesterday that she envied me and my BSB obsession and she wished she could find something in her life to be so passionate about. WOW! Thanks everyone for sharing. And, Asta, thanks for deciding to stay in this world with us so we could share your friendship. And, Geeze, we love you so hopefully you will take that to heart and appreciate the gifts you have. (I have to go and fix my makeup now.)

[NickCfan4life]

OMG i am crying too LOL!! only happy tears!!
yeah i am glad i found you.!!! thanx you also for everything.

only one wish i have is that bsb could read our stories..and realized how much effect they have in each one of our lives!! perhaps they will know alot more that they music deserves alot of respect. and they have gained lot of respect in my heart!!

[BSBGeezerFan]

K, if you make me tear up from making you tear up, I'll do you an injury!
Ah, I have it now. As I've said before, somehow they find the broken places in you and fix them without you asking, sometimes without you knowing that you were broken until you looked around and were (ack, ptooey, gag) happier.

(patting Asta) Hey, it's all good. But I would be horrified if they knew I existed. I couldn't even bring myself to do a post for allsaintsfan.

[NickCfan4life]

Geezer
well i am really proud that bsb has "older" fans but also lot matured one..i wish my mom could understand me she is around your age..i feel it ok when they knows the age numbers.guess what they think that they have gained fans up 25 -26 but not older why not letting them know. then they know a parents and other people do respect them :D
i wish my mom could understand my obsession. i mean she is obsessed by Enrique Iglesias. but i try to explain it is the same. she collect every single cds she finds with Enrique or Celine Dion. that´s is the complete same LOL!! she doesn´t see it with her eyes like i do!!

[BSBGeezerFan]

Yeah, I know. My kids think I'M the crazy one. Go figure!

[NickCfan4life]

let them think that LOL!!! you are great bsb fan :D with your great topics :D
ahhh they have their own obsessions (maybe they are a bsb closet fan but don´t want to admit it) :D