OT: Do you think this is a good idea?

[PrincessTimberlake]

As some of you know, my best friend's brother was murdered last week. I don't even really consider her a best friend, she's my family. Anyways, obviously, this past week has been a complete and total nightmare. He was her only sibling and they were extremely close. She's a cool girl and I love her SO much and have since we became friends 16 years ago.

I want to get her something but I didn't want to get her anything too corny or cliched. Well, my Mom has been really into making mosaic picture frames with these pretty tiles. So I figured I could try to make one of those for her since everytime she comes over she comments on how cool they look.

Do you think that would be good? Or is that just stupid? I like the idea but I thought I'd ask.

[Katlin]

No, I think it's really cute and thoughful Em. :)

[PrincessTimberlake]

Thanks. We'll see how it comes out. My Mom said even if its horrible I should give it to her because it'll be my first one ever.

[kk822]

I agree with Katlin that is a cute and thoughtful idea.

[Katlin]

Sounds like a great idea. :D

[lost_n_justin's_smile]

Sounds like a great idea:D

[PrincessTimberlake]

I'm glad you all thought so.

[SparkleHugs]

i think its an awesome idea Em.

im about to reply to your PM btw ;)

[PrincessTimberlake]

Thanks for all the input, everyone.

I was trying to think of something I could get her that would be really cool and not like everything else she's been getting and this came to me. So I'm glad you all approve.

[KareNsync2000]

Could you put a picture of her brother in it? When my friend's son died, I printed a bunch of pictures of him for her. It really helped.

[pinky]

Em, I'm sure that anything you make for her will help, because she'll know it came from your heart.

I'm also sure you'll do a beautiful frame, for the same reason.

[PrincessTimberlake]

Karen--I actually thought about that. And I actually have a box of their family pictures that I used to make posters of her brother and the family for the service. BUT I'm afraid that may upset her so I'm going to ask her parents before I actually put a picture in there. But good idea!

pinky--Thank you so much!

Its been such a hard week.

[Sunfire]

Oh man Emily, I had no idea that happend. I'm sorry!

Anyways, that sounds like a REALLY great idea! I know that she will love it, because like pinky said, it came from your heart!

[BrianWilly]

That really does sound cool. And it'll show that you put in a lot of effort, which I think will make her happy.

I'm sorry about this whole thing:(. If my brother was murdered, I have no idea what I'd be...like.

[giggles602]

*hugs* I hope you are doing OK.

Whatever you get her, she will be able to tell you put a lot of time and care into it. For that reason alone she should love it! The best gift you can give her is your support and from how you talk about her...you are already doing that!

[PrincessTimberlake]

Thanks everyone. I'm going to work on it today. It looks like it'll be a fun project that hopefully, she'll like and it'll give me something to do and keep me busy for a while.

Sunfire--Again, thank you for all the support you offered even when you didn't know what was wrong. You were awesome.

Brian--I can't imagine what I'd do if it were MY brother either. I see how hard his death has been on me and so I can't even really even begin to imagine the pain my friend is in. She's amazingly strong however, so I have no doubt that she'll pull through even if this is impossibly hard.

Giggles--Thanks! I hope she likes it.

Its been a really hard week or so since it happened. The whole story is much worse than him actually being murdered, it was a murder-suicide thing and he was just the innocent victim in the whole thing. His best friend was the one who killed him, who I also knew. Its been very difficult. I appreciate all your support. I've never been through anything as terrible as this and even though its been about a week now, its still difficult. I appreciate and love you all.

[JustifiedFan]

I am sooo sorry Emily *hugs* that is horrible. I hope she likes the gift you make her.

I can tell you from experience that people really do encourage Personalized creative gifts alot more than ... store bought!


aND remember.. if you need to TALK let me know :) OK! I am here for you!

[jujusfirecracker01]

As everyone has said.... i think thats a really good and cute idea Em :). I'm sure she's gonna love it no matter what :). *hugs* i hope things start to get better for you and your friend and her whole family :).

:love: ~ Kim ~

[loonyinminnesota]

when my only sibling died I received a picture frame with a poem in it. I really gives me comfort to read it. If you're interested I could send you the poem

[NeeCee]

Em, i am really sorry to hear about your friend's brother. **hugs**

I think what you want to make is a great idea! I am sure she will love and appreciate it. Take care and please feel free to come to me if you need to talk. Hard times are even harder when you don't have all the support you need!

[PrincessTimberlake]

Thanks everyone. Its been extremely difficult. He wasn't just my best friend's brother, he was also like MY brother. I looked up to him in SO many ways. Even though we hadn't been close recently, I still talked to him on the phone at least twice a month if not more. I'm really going to miss that.

I'm really going to miss him.

And like I said, I also knew the guy who killed him and then killed himself. I'd known him forever as well. So its been quite the struggle.

But I'll be okay. We will all get through this.

loony, if you could send that poem to me, that would be GREAT. And if you have any other advice on what I could be doing for my friend since I have NO idea how to handle this. So any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Everyone else, I :love: you guys. In all of this, I've felt alone MANY times so its great to know I have all your support.

[Mandy G]

I am so sorry Emily. That is terrible. :(

But I think that's a great idea for a gift. :)

[loonyinminnesota]

loony, if you could send that poem to me, that would be GREAT. And if you have any other advice on what I could be doing for my friend since I have NO idea how to handle this. So any advice would be greatly appreciated.


I sent you a pm with the poem

[grace701]

I haven't posted because I get all emotional, so I've been a wimp, sorry.

I agree with what everyone has said: it's a great idea and knowing that it's coming from you means so much. It doesn't matter what you do or say, so long as you they know that you are there with them. When my cousin died, my bestfriend called me, she didn't come over, but she called and didn't know what to say. I told her that it was okay because for me just knowing that she made the effort was all that I needed.

I've been praying for his family. :(