Muslim and Christianity

[Queen Stephanie]

Does anyone believe an interfaith romance is possible?

[bekahbeans]

Do you mean between the two religions, or are you talking about people from the religions?

[RossN]

Well there are problems. I believe that Islam requires the children of a Muslim man and a Jewish or Christian woman (non-Muslim men aren't allowed marry Muslim women period) be raised as Muslims which might cause a strain.

Do chuid

[Queen Stephanie]

I'm doing research for a book where a romance develops between a muslim and a christian.

Overall, I think that love could be strong enough to conquer certain prejudices.

[bekahbeans]

I guess it would depend on the people, but it would be a hard road.

Although...since both religions do basically believe in the same God (I think) it might not be a big deal.

[Queen Stephanie]

Christians believe that Christ is the child of God. Muslims believe he was merely a prohet like Mohammed(sp) and that Allah is God.

Thanks though.

[Sarahbackstreet]

In Islam a Muslim man is allowed to marry women with a different religion,But it's prefered for her to convert eventually to Islam.

Woman, on the other hand,can only marry Muslims men.

It's for the sake of the children really,to make sure they're going to be raised Muslims,since here children follow the religion of the father,God made that law to protect Muslims.

I personally don't see how I could even marry a Christian man,It's really not about love,Marriage is hard enough to work out ,and with both holding on to our faithes it will be impossible.

[Sinister]

Originally posted by Sarahbackstreet
I personally don't see how I could even marry a Christian man,It's really not about love.

:confused:

[Sarahbackstreet]

I mean that I don't see this as an "Love can concur anything" kind of case,It takes more than love to get two people to spend the rest of their lives together and actually succeed,I just don't see how it would work.

I'm talking about myself and not every Muslim girl,I'm too young to know how love works anyway,But I know that I want the person I fall in love with and marry to be as devoted as I am to God,in the Islamic way that is,even a devoted Muslim can mean something different in each person's point of view,But I know that men with a view close to mine will be the ones who will attract my attention,So falling in love with a Christian or a person who's beliefs are that different than mine just seems far fetched to me.

Ofcourse I have no idea about what I'm talking about when it comes to love:p,But this is how my 16 year old mind sees it.

[MerrySunshine]

Sarah, you're 16 year old mind sees things a lot more clearly than many, many, many adult's minds do.

As it happens, my 33 year old mind thinks exactly the same way your 16 year old one does, only as regards Christianity. I could never see myself falling in love or marrying a man who did not share my commitment to God in the same (or a very similar) way I am committed to him. I would never choose a non-Christian man because, you are right, it's not just about love. Love can't conquer all and it's a modern myth that "all you need is love." You need common values and beliefs, etc. too if you're going to succeed in marriage. You even need a common understanding of how you want to manage your finances! I've tried the interfaith relationship once (with a Jewish guy) and it just didn't work because we see God differently. And we both ended up very unhappy and heartbroken. It works fine in friendships -- being interfaith -- but marriage is so much more. I've got Jewish and Muslim friends and Buddhist friends and agnostic friend and friends who aren't sure what they believe, but we're not married to each other and we're not going to be raising each other's children or living in the same home. If you choose to date or marry interfaith, you are choosing a very tough road, I think. I choose not to place myself in a situation where I could possible fall in love with a person whom I could never marry or who could never marry me.

[bekahbeans]

^agreed.

[Mattio]

:( Love IS all you need!

[young again]

Originally posted by MerrySunshine
You need common values and beliefs, etc. too if you're going to succeed in marriage.

Agreed!

IHMO whether you can make the interfaith thing work has a lot to do with how important different aspects of your religion are to you. This is my perspective having had a sort-of-interfaith romance lead to 15 years (and counting) of marriage. "Sort-of" interfaith because my husband wasn't raised with any particular religion, and he converted to Judaism before we got married. But my extended family includes everything from born-again Christians to Catholics to Orthodox Jews, and really, if there have been any conflicts, it has less to do with religion per se and more to do with values. For example, if everyone involved shares the core value of maintaining family relationships with an attitude of respect, things like the "December dillemma" will work themselves out.

[Sarahbackstreet]

Originally posted by MerrySunshine
Sarah, you're 16 year old mind sees things a lot more clearly than many, many, many adult's minds do.

As it happens, my 33 year old mind thinks exactly the same way your 16 year old one does, only as regards Christianity. I could never see myself falling in love or marrying a man who did not share my commitment to God in the same (or a very similar) way I am committed to him. I would never choose a non-Christian man because, you are right, it's not just about love. Love can't conquer all and it's a modern myth that "all you need is love." You need common values and beliefs, etc. too if you're going to succeed in marriage. You even need a common understanding of how you want to manage your finances! I've tried the interfaith relationship once (with a Jewish guy) and it just didn't work because we see God differently. And we both ended up very unhappy and heartbroken. It works fine in friendships -- being interfaith -- but marriage is so much more. I've got Jewish and Muslim friends and Buddhist friends and agnostic friend and friends who aren't sure what they believe, but we're not married to each other and we're not going to be raising each other's children or living in the same home. If you choose to date or marry interfaith, you are choosing a very tough road, I think. I choose not to place myself in a situation where I could possible fall in love with a person whom I could never marry or who could never marry me.


Exactly,Merry!I agree 100%.