OT: I need support

[misty twilight]

I have had the world's worst last 30 days. And I am not usually one to ask for pity or anything, I just need some encouraging words.

To start off, most of you know the issues I have had with my oldest sons behavior and emotional issues. Well, last month his dad and I made the decision to have him go live with his grandparents for a little while to see if it would help him. His dad and I don't seem to have what it needs to give him all of the help he requires since we both work full time and have other children. Plus the divorce was really hard on him :( So the beginning of this month I had to drive him down to his grandparents.

The week before that I lost my job due to working for a bunch of jerks :rolleyes:

And then this last week I had to deal with my ex-mother-in-law bad mouthing me and saying I abandoned my son. And that if my ex-husband paid me 10,000 dollars I would give him full custody of our other two children and walk away without looking back :mad:

*cries*

When it rains it pours I guess :greyno:

[Katlin]

I'm sorry to hear about your problems Mici.

But on the bright side, things can only go up from here. :)

[misty twilight]

LMAO! See, I knew someone would make me smile :D

[GoalGrl21]

Oh MiMiMici! *hug*

I know I haven't talked to you in awhile, but know that I do think of you, as I'm sure a lot of people here do and that everything will work out.

I know I'm always the one to be a pessimist and not look for the brighter side, but trust me, you are a good, kindhearted person who deserves more than how you are now being treated.

If you ever need me, don't ever hesitate to get in touch okay?

[misty twilight]

*hugs* Thanks, LaLa! I know I haven't been around much. I was working way too many hours :(

[LA Lady]

I'm really sorry to hear that. And don't ever let anyone - evil ex-mother-in-law or not - make you feel like you did any less than your best.

I had a coworker whose young son had behavioral / emotional issues. He was an absolute terror at times. I babysat for him occasionally and it was incredibly difficult. His older sister was being affected by his behavior, in that her parents were focusing so much on the son, that she got lost in the shuffle at times.

His parents ultimately ended up divorcing, which of course didn't help, and the child (at 7 years old) was kicked out of four different schools in a matter of a year and a half.

I've since lost touch with her, so I don't know what's been happening since then (this was 3 years ago), however I know that she tried everything she could to help her son, and she struggled with feeling like a failure, and with frustration, etc.

I have no doubt that you and your ex-husband made the best decision you could - and perhaps the grandparents will be able to make a difference somehow.

Hang in there, and vent any time. :)

[BellaStile]

Mici!

I'm so sorry you have to go through all this. And your ex-mother-in- law can't tell you anything about being a bad mother. Its not her place AND its not any of her business!!!!

:rolleyes: Ugh!!! The nerve!

How you raise your children is between you and thier father SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO anything SHE has to say just let it rooooooolllllllll, and keep on keep keepin' on!!!

Hang in there chica! ;)

[~*~pudge~*~]

OMG Mici *BIG HUGS*

i think you're doing the right thing....he's needs sometime to deal with all of this stuff that's going on...it's probably very overwhelming right now.....

i'm so sorry about your job, but you're an awesome person and a hard worker, i can only believe that you are meant to find a better job. one which they appreciate you more!

you'll be in my thoughts and prayers....

*hugs* again!

[misty twilight]

Thanks, Bella and April :) I really appreciate your encouraging words. I have gone from the self pity stage of this to just being mad. LOL.

[PrincessTimberlake]

Aww, Mici! Hang in there!

[MusicChild2003]

Mici! I haven't talked to you in forever! Prolly cuz I changed my screen name and e-mails!

I'm so sorry you've had to deal with all of that! No one should have to! But maybe it's God showing you that you need a change with work! And maybe your son is going to be a blessing to his grandparents for a little while. :D

I hope things get better! I'll pray for you! *hugs*

[NeeCee]

**hugs**

I have been having a hard time lately too! Hang in there! We are here for ya!

[misty twilight]

Thanks, Emily, Amanda, and NeeCee :)

[pinky]

Mici, I'm sure you've done everything you possibly can for your son. Sometimes there are issues that just need a different perspective, and now he'll get that, plus your other children will be able to get the attention they deserve, and which has probably been diverted to their brother because of his greater need.

Don't let the mother-in-law from hell get to you, either. She's probably just overcompensating for what she sees as her own failings. (I'm guessing that this is NOT the grandmother that your son is staying with....maybe she's jealous?)

You'll be no good for anyone.......especially not for your oldest son.......if you don't take care of yourself. You need to recharge a bit. A new job, some quality time for yourself, and the strength to ignore the old hag's words will do wonders for you.

And remember, you have friends here who will build you back up, free of charge, at any time!