About my husband

[MusicChild2003]

So you all, i'm sure, remember that my husband left me in June of '06. Today was the first day he's spoken to me since then. It was through an email on myspace. I called his dad Sunday night asking for his phone number because i just got a life insurence policy at my new job and I need him to sign it to show that he isn't the beneficiary because we STILL aren't divorced. He sent an email that said the only way he would sign it is if i sent divorce/separation papers to his dad. BULL! He's in for a rude awakening of my father boyfriend and brother crushing his hand while they hold it as he signs the beneficiary paper. *guh* the whole family is a bunch of dumbies.

I can't afford tofix my car, go to school and pay my credit card debts LET ALONE divorce. I'm seriously looking into bancrupcy because my husband ran up all my CC's because he wouldn't work. *sigh* It's all so stupid and immature. He needs to man up.

[MJ12sGal4eva]

man he just needs to grow up .....


my mother in law filed for bankruptcy and she has a new slate ...

and they still send her applications for new credit cards ...

i know she also had a lawyer helping her with the bankruptcy .. i think they were trying to deny her or something i forget .... not sure if something has changed now .. i thought it i saw something like they would make it harder to file for bankruptcy or something ....

[SparkleHugs]

My parents couldn't get credit for 10 years after they filed for bankruptcy, which was the type of bankruptcy they paid back in full with monthly payments. People offered them credit all the time and they never qualified, luckily they only tried once or twice because applying ruins your credit.

A divorce does not require a lawyer if both people can agree to the terms of the divorce. A paralegal is alot cheaper.

[MusicChild2003]

yea i wish it would be that easy. my husband wouldn't agree to a thing i said even if it was sane, well thought, well put, and what we needed. His dad is the one coaching him against me and his dad is.. well.. a lot of words i can't say on here.

Bankrupcy is not at all what i want to do. For the simple fact of what you said Sparks. AND i can't afford it. I can't afford anything. :(

[pinky]

His dad is the one coaching him against me and his dad is.. well.. a lot of words i can't say on here.
The nut didn't fall too far from the tree, did it? :greyno:

Is there anyone at work who can advise you about how to handle this? My guess is you're not the only one who's been down this road before, and they might be able to figure out how you can complete the paperwork without his paw prints on it.

[SparkleHugs]

My aunt got a divorce attorney completely pro bono because her ex was a jerk, she was completely insane too, but thats besides the point....she found an attorney to do work for her pro bono. I'd get on the phone and start calling around.

[lost_n_justin's_smile]

Andrea, are you still in Ohio? I know we have Legal Aid organizations here that might be able to help you at little or no cost. The people who do the work are usually law students or volunteers. Let me see if I can find some information for you

http://www.ohiolegalservices.org/OSLSA/PublicWeb/About/delsys

Here is a website with links to Legal Aid Societies for each section of Ohio. I forgot which county you live in but there's links for all areas of the state there

[HipHopChristian]

How dare you out social work me Lanie? lol, jk ;)

Yeah, I know that it's REALLY hard to get a divorce if the other person doesn't agree to it... my mom and dad are in the same situation. It can be done though, it's something you really need to look into. Also... bankruptcy is really hard on the credit, but there are more options than you think as far as rebuilding credit.

[lost_n_justin's_smile]

How dare you out social work me Lanie? lol, jk ;)



Sorry, Hollis;).

[SparkleHugs]

How dare you out social work me Lanie? lol, jk ;)

Yeah, I know that it's REALLY hard to get a divorce if the other person doesn't agree to it... my mom and dad are in the same situation. It can be done though, it's something you really need to look into. Also... bankruptcy is really hard on the credit, but there are more options than you think as far as rebuilding credit.


There are more options for repaying your debt that you probably think too.

[HipHopChristian]

oh there totally are

[MusicChild2003]

so, i have been so stressed out about all this, that i made myself sick. :-/ But i've got most of it figured out. I started paying into debt consolidation, which keeps me out of court and they gave me a payment i'm able to make.
As for the divorce. I'm asking for the money for the papers for Christmas (its $250 on Rapidlaw.net for papers).. and then the judge will decided who pays for the filing, and I'll make whatever payments. I'm just doing a dissallusionment (sp?) even though he owes me a crap load of money.

Lanie thanks for the link, i'll look into it.

As for now, i'm just trying to get through this semester. I was sick for two weeks, and missed some school, then my car died and i missed a couple classes, and now i have the flu, but i'm not missing school anymore, so everyone else is going to get the flu. :-/