Dudes, I need help.

[Sunfire]

So long story short, some drunk guy got involved in a hit and run and ran away from the scene (making it then a hit & run) last night on the freeway. He ran across 2 lanes, until he was hit... by my friend. She is not at fault in any way, and the guy survived (probably because he was drunk). And she is physcially ok (thank goodness), but mentally... not so much. She says she can't get the image of the guy laying on the ground w/ blood everywhere out of her head.

So anyway, I really want to do something for her... but I'm not sure what. She is out of town right now (that is good too, I think), left today and will be back on Wednesday. Do you guys have any suggestions? I'm trying to think of something... like, maybe a book that could help her get through this? I'm unsure... so if you think of anything, please let me know! I already told her that I am there for her and all that. Ugh. I just feel so bad. :(

[Katlin]

I say just take her out to dinner or something like that. She'd probably appreciate the conversation.

[pinky]

Wow, that must be really hard to deal with. I'll try to think of a book that might help her, or a cd or something.

Maybe one of those "nature sounds" cds that couls help her relax, and some aromatherapy bath stuff?

Plus, taking her out for lunch or dinner, just to let her talk it out would help, like Katlin said.

[*Krazy*4*Kaos*]

I agree with Kaitlin. When you get back, just take her out. Let her talk about it. She will need to get all this stuff out, and just keep reminding her that she did nothing wrong.
Just be her friend and listen. Thats the best thing you can do.

[Sunfire]

Ok cool, thanks you guys! :)

[SparkleHugs]

Katlin has it all wrong. take her out for a hardcore night on the town.

just kidding. I just didnt want to be the fourth person saying exactly what Katlin did.

as ive said many times before I think therapy is a really good way to get through your feelings especially for traumatic experiences because sometimes you can feel all screwed up and just dont know how to work through it because you cant sort it out or know exactly what it is you're feeling. I would suggest that in addition to listening yourself and just being there for her in any which way possible, which of course you would anyway.

and a self help book never hurt anyone, but its been my experience most people dont open them. if you think she would open it, by all means get one if you see one that would help her...but if she isnt a reader then i would save your money and buy her maybe chocolates or just take her somewhere fun she would like. like miniature golfing! or maybe invite her over for a board game night and just have good times.

oh..and hug. hugs are good.

[Sunfire]

Thanks! She has already talked about seeing someone, and I said I thought she should too. This was only the day after, where it was so vivid, so we'll see. I talked to her girlfriend today, and she said she is doing better. So that makes me happy. I left her a message saying that she should workout w/ me this week... I told her it would be good for her body and mind. I do a boot camp/group exercise class most days of the week, and it really kicks my ass. We used to run together, but not so much anymore. So I think something like that would be really good for her.

She does like to read, which is why I thought of the book. I have a book I might let her borrow... but we'll see. Maybe down the road.

Thank you! :D

[pinky]

Nicki, how about The 5 People You Meet in Heaven by Mitch Albom? One of the stories in it involves a person that was killed by the main character (not his fault at all), and that person helped him through to heaven.....In fact, I think there are a couple of characters who died because of accidents, and there were no bad feelings.

Just a thought.

[HipHopChristian]

Sorry I have nothing to contribute :( I'm usually pretty good at stuff like this.

But the book Pinky suggested would be good for her. I know in our social work classes they were always saying how his books are good because they are therupatic in a way.