ot: Going back home

[NicksSummerGurl]

Harlan for the weekend girlfriends...
*sigh*
pray for me.

On a fun note, we bought Shooter that $800 Water Slide/Mini Water Park at ToysRUs for his birthday and are hauling it all the way there so he can have the birthday party he wanted there with his Kentucky cousins.

I am sad to say some "friends" of the family are also going to be there.

This time, I refuse to keep my body/brain present anywhere a discussion is taking place that includes racism and/or sexist remarks.
This time, I won't even ask, "Will you please not say that word around me and my child?" ...or "Can you please wait until my son is not around to insist our country is going to hell because a woman might be running it in the future?"
I won't waste my breath or cause myself a headache...
I'm going to say,
"SO WHAT?" lol, and go on my merry way.

But if someone threatens a hanging again at the mention of me bringing anyone they'd not approve of around them, I might have to cuss someone out this time. I'm really beyond tired of hearing it. It's almost like they say inside their heads, "There's Cricket...must tell her we'll hang her and her homosexual friends if they ever come here."

Like any of my friends even want to go to that hell hole of a place.:rolleye2:

[NeeCee]

Cricket, i am praying for you! :)

[NicksSummerGurl]

That I won't go to jail?
Or that I don't get hung?

[NeeCee]

Both!!

LOL

[andipandi74]

oh my! Girl I pray you have a low to no drama visit! That noone goes to jail, noone threatens to hang anyone, and that you all have a good fun visit.

[NeeCee]

Fill us in when you return...

If you return, maybe i should say! ;) lol

[NicksSummerGurl]

I had a pretty bad weekend. Everything you'd imagine to happen, happened.
And on top of that, B, Shooter and I were the first to come up on a terrible car accident as we were coming out of the holler in Hyden (where my parents live)...

one of them was dead. *sigh*

It's been bothering me all night and today is going to be nothing but me thinking about that poor man and seeing his face.

I'll tell you guys all about it later today.

I'm very sad.

[NicksSummerGurl]

This lady driving a white SUV was FLYING. She hit this small car and friggin' smashed it. When she got out of her vehicle, she said to me, "Call 911...THAT CAR (she said it as if it was a cockroach) pulled out in front of me!!!"

She had no idea just how hurt they were....or the fact that she had killed someone.

I checked on her, her baby and the lady with her first. The baby was SQUALLIN'! And still in her car seat...I took that as a good sign and kept truckin'. The lady on the passenger side had a very bad cut on her leg and was bleeding like hell. We do not have a cell phone, but a lady who pulled up behind us did and I asked her to call 911 and she did.

This is when I decided to check on the people in the other car.

My goodness. There are no words to describe just how smashed that car was. She hit them on the driver's side. I could see the driver. His head sorta wobbled a bit, slowly. First to the front, then to the back...and then it sort of settled. Blood was coming out of his ear.
And then I saw the lady in the backseat. It looked like her brain was falling out of her nose. (not trying to be funny) She was knocked out at first, but then she opened her eyes and asked me, "What happened?"

I told her there was a car accident, everything was ok, help was on the way and to be still.

I noticed she began to BLOW OUT HER MOUTH...she was trying to get the blood and mucous away from her mouth...that's when I realized she could not move her arms. I tried to keep my cool.

I knew the driver was fatally hurt. His whole head/face was gray...strangest thing I ever saw. He had thrown up. There was a gash behind his left ear. His window was down. There was blood coming out of ever orifice of his head. I began to holler/yell at him as loudly as I could. "HEY!!! HELLO??!!! CAN YOU HEAR ME BUDDY?!! CAN YOU ANSWER ME?"
All while trying to keep a straight face and not look emotional or let the lady read anything from my face that would cause her to freak out. I then just quickly moved back on to her.
Me: "What's your name?"
She could barely speak. She was moaning. Her nose was broken and I think her jaw also...she couldn't move it much.
Her: "Tammy Smith."
Me: "How old are you?"
Her: "33 or 34...I can't move."
Me: "Good, you don't want to move right now anyway...try to be very still, ok?"
And I explained to her again she had been in a car accident, to be as still as possible and all that.
Me: Are you or anyone in the car allergic to anything?
Her: No.

And that's when B came over (from parking our vehicle way out of the way so Ethan could not see) and he told me to go to our son...so I did.
He was fine. He was on his knees in the backseat, looking back, trying to see what was going on. I made him get back in his seatbelt and look ahead. Not long after that, B was walking towards us...he told me (out of Ethan's ear shot) that he couldn't get a pulse from the driver and that the lady in the backseat was starting to flip out a little bit and told me I needed to get back over there and talk to her while he worked on the driver and the other guy.
OTHER GUY???!!!!

When I walked back over to the car, I realized there was a young guy in the passenger seat...all slumped over, almost in the floorboard. The driver had his arm on top of him. I think I was so concentrating on keeping Tammy from reading me that I didn't see everything. She seemed so relieved to see me again, bless her heart.

Tammy: Is my brother ok?!
Me: What's your brother's name?

This annoyed her a little bit I think.

Tammy: (Unintelligable) Ebersole
Me: How old is he?
Tammy: I don't know. Is he ok, he won't answer me?
Me: Oh yes. He's breathing and everything is just fine, he's just knocked out right now is all.
Tammy: Is he bleeding?
Me: Oh no, he's ok.

I could see his stomach rising and falling...BUT SO VERY, VERY FAST. (which worried me)

Me: How old is he again?
Tammy: Is my boyfriend ok?

[NicksSummerGurl]

By this time a man and a woman had arrived. The woman was a nurse...and a bitchy one at that.

B had blood all over him from trying to get a pulse from the driver. I tried to keep him out of Tammy's view. I placed myself in front of him many times to keep her from seeing him.

Me: Yes. And help is on the way.
Tammy: I can't move. My leg hurts, please help me.
Me: Try not to, ok? Try to be very still sweetheart...it's going to be ok Tammy, just hold on. Do you ever pray to Jesus?
Tammy: Yes
Me: Well let's me and you pray to Jesus, ok? Pray for him to help you with the pain.

And I prayed with her.

Nurse: *struggling to put on rubber gloves* What's your name?
Me: Her name is Tammy.
Nurse: Hold old are you Tammy?
*TAMMY IS IN PAIN*
Tammy: I don't know. My name is Tammy Smith, my boyfriend's name is_____ Dean and my brother's name is ____ Ebersole.
Nurse: How old is your brother?
Tammy: I don't know
Nurse: Well you think about it.
Me: Is he your little brother or big brother?
(have to talk like this with these people because they are very back woods, you don't even know)
Tammy: He's my little brother...MY LEG HURTS...*moooaaann* (keep in mind she could barely talk and her voice was very low)

She was pinned in from the car door being smashed into her leg and hip and from the seat in front of her. Her leg had to be crushed to smitherines. I felt so sorry for her.

Bitchy Nurse: MA'AM, I NEED YOU TO CALM DOWN.:o

Guys, you don't know how bad I wanted to tell her to STFU and get the hell out the way if that was the best she could do. I understand she was just trying to help, but telling someone with their brain falling out their nose, who is unable to move and who is worried about her brother and who doesn't know her boyfriend is dead you need them to "calm down"---and say it like the world's biggest bitch...NO...not on my watch. It made Tammy break down....she began to try and cry, but it was so painful for her, bless her heart.
So I spoke up for her with the quickness and said, "She *is* calm...and she's going to stay that way because the Holy Spirit is going to comfort and calm her, right Tammy?"

Tammy: Yes, oh Jesus please help me. I just wish help would hurry and get here...please get me out of here.
Me: *desperately trying to keep her from freaking out too bad* Well let's me and you pray to Jesus again...let's pray that he gets the ambulance here quickly and safely, ok? Because HE is your best friend right now...and he will be all the time if you let him...let's just pray ok?
Tammy: Ok

And we prayed...the instant I said "Amen", we heard sirens...I looked at her and she was looking at me...and I smiled at her and said, "See...I told you."
:)

*sigh*
Some redneck men had came over and basically forced me out of the way. I heard one of them say, "Get these women out of here."
:rolleye2:

A cop had arrived and the ambulance was close....we had done all we could do. We left after that.

I made Brandon stop at a pay phone so I could tell my mother to put in prayer request at church that night. Plus I just wanted to hear her voice.
B says we're getting a cell phone now.

*sigh*
Just horrible. Horrible, horrible, horrible. I'll never ever forget it...the look on her face...how gray he looked...and that guy's panting...how quickly his stomach rose and fell.

I want to go back in and try and find this girl. I'd like to visit with her for a bit.

I could never do that kind of thing for a living.

Please, if I'm ever in an accident or an emergency situation...never, never, never tell me to calm down the way that bitchy nurse did. Just don't...it doesn't help anything, it only makes it worse. Maybe if you had the right/correct approach it'd be ok....but not like how she did...it was just awful. Made the poor girl cry and almost made me cry too...and that's the last thing we need in moments like that.

[NicksSummerGurl]

Also, I heard a lot of, "If Obama gets voted in, this country will go to hell....blah blah"

"I don't trust him"

"I don't trust his religion...he's not Christian."

*in hick accent*
"If he picks Hillary, she'll get shot right in the head....no woman can run this country or be vice-president...blah blah blah"

But I also heard, "If he don't pick Hilary to run with him, I'm voting for McCain"

They are so afraid he's going to allow terrorists in our country to come "blow us all up".

And I kept hearing about , "Obama said the US doesn't know hard times....that other countries know hard times...Americans need to stay at home...he's going to have us all unable to do anything...all we'll be able to do is be at home.":rolleye2:
That's when I spoke up and said I agreed. Americans are wasteful...we're spoiled...we don't know what it's like to truly struggle. FOLKS BACK HOME KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE THOUGH....and that's why this comment from Obama has ticked them off a bit. America, Obama, W, The Clintons and everyone else forget about the TRULY poor people in this country. The povery level back home is beyond anything you'd ever believe. So for them to hear that they don't know hard times...yeah, it don't set well with them. To tell them they need to stay home more often, lol, is a joke. These people aren't wasteful...they can't be. They have wells (if they are lucky) and must conserve water...they can't afford electicity bills and they raise their own food....they don't know what it's like HERE WHERE I LIVE OR WHERE YOU LIVE...and how wasteful and spoiled most people are.
And add on top of that IGNORANCE and well, Obama will never get their votes.

Hand to heaven...mark my words...if Obama is elected ...he *will* be assasinated one way or another. And if Hilary is picked to run with him, she's dead too. One of those idiots from where I come from will kill both of them.

And then the Speaker of the House is a goner too...she has a vagina and that just won't fly.

*sigh*
It infuriates me and depresses me.

And Kevin kept saying, "Yeah, OBAMA SUCKS!!!!!"
*dear God*
And Ethan kept looking up at me like, "But Momma, you told me Obama was a good guy."

I just wanted to scoop him up and take him out of there.

My mother, my father and my sister were the only ones who weren't being psycho racist, sexist homophobes.

[NeeCee]

omg Cricket, that is horrible and so sad. Thank goodness you and B were there though. Tammy needed someone like you to help her through this tough time. I do hope you find her and are able to visit her. I'm sending you and B big hugs. I know how hard it is to witness something like this. I've seen a few BAD accidents, i didn't witness it happen, but i came upon a pretty bad one a few years ago. There was about 6 other cars that stopped, and i had stopped as well. I was going to go up to the car, but that's when the cops showed and asked us to leave since we didn't actually see anything. I remember (not much though) a long time ago when i was a kid, i was in the car with my mom and a friend of hers, and i think my sister was there too..anyways, a train hit a car. I remember my mom telling us to stay put, so i actually didn't see anything, i just remember we sat in the car and waited until they came back after the police arrived.

((hugs))

[NicksSummerGurl]

Thanks for those hugs, I really need them right now.
Nothing like some NeeCee hugs!:kiss:

[NeeCee]

Well then i am sending some more of them:

((hugs))

My poor Cricket! :(

[NicksSummerGurl]

I luf u.

[NeeCee]

I luf u 2!! :kiss:

[Berly]

Cricket, my love....stop taking trips for a while. They haven't been going well for you lately. *hugs* Oh my word....I can't even imagine that. As hard as it was for you to go through, it's good that those people, particularly Tammy had you there. I know if I were in her situation, some bitchy lady telling me to calm down would not be what I'd want to hear. I'd like to think there'd be someone like you there for me.

And I've got some special people in my family too...which is why I don't keep contact with a lot of them.

[andipandi74]

oh hun! :greyno: I could never have stayed so calm, I'm proud of you for doing what you could for Tammy. I hope you get a chance to find her. You praying with her made me cry, it's a miracle it wasn't the nurse that came up first, as tramatic as it was I know you were there for a reason.

I'm so terrified of accidents. I didn't get my license till I was 27...and my fear was a major factor.